Hey guys! Now I know it isn’t January 1st, but… I’m talking about 2019 goals today. Did you set resolutions this year? Have you dropped them already? Did you just skip the whole idea of it because they’ve been a bust in the past? We’re a month in and if you don’t have a clear picture of what your goals for the year are, it isn’t too late!!
I set 2018 up (a couple months behind, back in March last year) with some serious goals. I had a vision, goals and a plan and I went after it. It was the first year I have ever ended feeling like I had accomplished everything I set out to do. I was sooo excited to set 2019 up for success and I already feel like I’m marching towards goals and a kick ass year.
I’m no expert on this, I can admit that, but I want you to have the best year you possibly could so I’m here to share, what I think is a super fun, process of goal setting that has made a huge impact on my own life. Tomorrow is as good of day to start as any! You’ve got 11 months to kill it so if you haven’t laid out your goals for the year, give it a try!!
My goals have always been a total bust… why??
I’m going to start with a few reasons resolutions fall apart. “Resolutions” have been a pet peeve of mine for a few years now. There’s a couple keywords in the actual definition of that word that I like – determined, purposeful.Those are great! Yes, let’s head into the year with determination and purpose BUT not in this resolute, set in stone way that sets us up for failure. So here’s a few things to look out for in your goals or resolutions or whatever you want to call them!
It’s a fix.
- A lot of the time we make resolutions that are solely based off of something we think is wrong or not enough. Look for words like “back in/into”, “get out of the habit”, “stop” and “fix” and ditch those! Unfortunately, we are impressively good at identifying flaws in ourselves. So I’m challenging you to let go of what you already know about yourself and think forward with zero regard for what you think your limits are. Focus on the skills you want to build instead of zoning in on the ones you’re lacking. Thing about things you want to add to your life as opposed to remove. Starting with a negative puts you in the wrong mindset from the start!
You’ve set yourself up for failure.
- Guys – Let’s not lie to ourselves. Let go of the exact numbers and rules that give you permission call “failure” and quit 2 weeks in. If I haven’t been to the gym in 6 months and make a resolution to go 5 times a week starting now, I’m setting myself up for failure. There HAS to be a balance between reality and ambition. You can totally flesh out the details in terms of frequency and numbers as you make a plan but don’t start there!
You Don’t Know What Your Actual Goal Is.
- “I want to lose 30 pounds this year” Ok. Great! Sounds do-able, you’ve got 12 months to make it happen, a gym membership and 712 different diets out there. But then what? What are you going for? Confidence? Health? Strength? Your goals should set you up to feel more than just like you checked something off of the list. Again – Start with the big idea before you nail down the details on how to get there!
If you’re resolutions fall into any of those descriptions… probs going to be a bust. I mean, maybe not. But probably. And if they do, that’s ok! It’s time to shift your perspective, set some real goals and get after it!
It’s time to set up for a year of success!
Ok – So we’ve got a grasp on what not to do… now what TO DO. There are sooo many awesome resources out there for creating a vision, setting goals and making a plan for hitting them. A quick google and you’ll want to buy about 6 different planners, attend a workshop and read 7 books. I did a lot of that for you being the total sucker for learning that I am and here’s what I tried. It seems to be working so far so I’m thinking it will work for you too!
Let’s set some goals.
Craft your vision
- You can do this in all sorts of ways! The key is to focus where you want to be at the end of the year with an open mind! The funnest way I’ve found to do this is making a vision board. Pull out the craft supplies and grab some scissors and a glue stick. Stock up on a few magazines that are relevant to what you see as your goals for the year (health, business, travel, home). browse around here buy Depakote steroids Now cut out all of the words and photos that embody who you want to be at the end of the year. Look in titles, copy, photos, icons, ads.. everywhere. You’ll feel like a total cheeseball back in 4th grade art class again but that’s ok! Kyle and I actually had a ton of fun doing this part! Once you’ve got everything cut out, grab a piece of paper, or poster board depending on how big you’re going and start sticking! When you’re done you’ll have a fun messy page that tells you exactly what you want the 2019 you to be!
- If the idea of buying a glue stick to do a goal setting activity just ticks you off, that’s ok too (though I REALLY do suggest it). Instead of cutting up magazines and pictures, you can make a board digitally OR just write down where you want to be at the end of the year. Set a timer for 3-5 minutes and just write. Where do you want to be? What do you want to me doing? Doodle. Draw. Write. That works too!
Set your goals
- Alright – now take a step back and look at that board. What words or themes popped up? Are there categories that a bunch of your words fall into. Did you find repeat words or images? These are what you turn into your big goals for the year. The recurring themes on my board had to do with friends and family, nutrition & fitness, and money. From those themes, I could then set some goals. For example, I found the words save, dollar signs, budget on my board along with images of vacation destinations and things that I know I can’t afford at the moment. All of that led me to the goal of building up my savings to be able to do the things I love to do! Gather up the big ideas and turn them into big goals WITHOUT and numbers or anything tied to them.
Make a Plan
- You’ve got these big ideas of where you want to be at the end of the year, but now it’s time to think about how you’re going to get there. Time to make a plan. The plan is the part that you revisit every couple weeks to keep stepping toward your goal.
- For fitness goals, this is where you commit to a gym membership or online plan and set a realistic, tangible short term goals for easing into whatever the longterm goal is. Maybe the only goal in the first 2 weeks is to experiment with gyms and find one you love. By the end of they year, your plan may include 5 classes and 2 runs per week. It evolves! If your goal is related to saving money, maybe the first part of your plan is to take a look backwards at spending before you can take steps looking forward.
- This is the part where you create actionable steps that will inch you toward your goals. TBH this is my favorite part of the whole thing because it makes goals SO much easier to grasp and revisiting and adjusting gives you FLEXIBILITY. Each time you revisit your plan and set shorter term goals, you are SO much closer to where you want to be.
You’ve Got This!
When you break it down into a few steps, and take the time to figure out exactly what you’re going for and how you’re going to get there, this whole year’s worth of goals thing doesn’t feel as daunting, right? I know it isn’t January 1st but that is not a reason to say screw it. If your resolutions have already fallen apart or you just haven’t set any big goals lately, do it! I’ve never regretted it and don’t think you will either. There’s no reason this one can’t be your best year yet! 🙂
In case you want to dive in deeper – Here a couple of my favorite finds on the topic of goal setting and tackling a new year with a plan!
- Rise Podcast – Daily Habits that Change the Game – This podcast is AMAZING! Brendan Burchard really does change the game and really knows how to conquer goals efficiently.
- Vision Workshop with the one and only Jackie Skinner – Jackie is a Life Coach and incredible Yoga teacher (she trained me :)) The exercises in this workshop helped me shape my vision this year and are a super fun way to look forward!
I’m a total sucker for this stuff so show me those vision boards and plans! Want to talk through it? Let’s get a latte! Make 2019 your year!!